23 April 2007

A child more biblically literate than I

In an attempt to help Annalivia reach adulthood with more retention of the Biblical stories than a vague remembrance that Exodus is after Genesis and that Jesus is mentioned in the second half of the Bible, we have been reading The Toddler's Bible.

I have to say -- I highly recommend it. In fact, I wish I would have bought it a good year ago. The illustrations are very nice gentle depictions. The stories are VERY simplified and are each about four pages long with about two sentences per page. I personally think Annalivia could handle more detail, but I like that this format leaves lots of room for discussing and interpreting the stories. Each of them can be easily embellished, but they are also simple enough that each of them can be easily remembered by a little one.

Annalivia is particularly fascinated with the baby Moses story, which I suppose I should have predicted given that she is obsessed with babies and dolls. She loves to flip through the book and find the pictures of the baby Moses and then talks about every detail of the illustration.

In fact, what I like most about this book is that Annalivia is drawn to it. She wants me to read it to her several times a day and I often find her leafing through it on her own. It would be so exciting to me if my children could have a grounding in scripture that would encourage their faith. It really would be nice if they didn't have to wonder what the Bible said about something (even after four semesters of seminary Bible class) but instead knew it in their hearts.

19 April 2007

Three reasons why I've not been here... and may not be for a bit

1. Life has been so incredibly full of, well... life, these last two weeks.

2. In the midst of triumphs and struggles being encountered by friends and loved ones and to a much lesser extent, us, taking time to type one-handed posts while juggling Daniel and ignoring Annalivia has seemed a poor and irresponsible decision.

3. I've been using the time when I juggle Daniel and ignore Annalivia (I hope everyone realizes I'm being facetious) to read some books.

I'll be back very soon.

16 April 2007

And the winner is...

Leah of Desert Spirit's Fire -- in a randomly selected drawing, you have won a gift certificate worth 10 sets of 100 pennies to Amazon!!!

THANK YOU to all who played in the 100 Things Contest! It was so neat to read your lists!

And for those who asked -- I'll put mine up in a separate post this week. If anyone else wants to link their list on the original post even though the contest is over, feel free!!

11 April 2007

The sorrow of loss

Today held the sad news that little Sawyer James Rennie died. Sawyer was born to Amy and Jim on Mar. 31. Last night his little organs failed him and he passed away early this morning. Amy and Jim lost their first son Brian who was born prematurely, also. I can't imagine their grief. Their pain must be overwhelming.
This evening, I found out that my dear friend, Bill, my seminary mentor, passed away yesterday after a long, hard fight with acute leukemia. He was an extraordinary person -- a pastor, musician, composer, intellectual, husband, father, grandfather and friend. Though we were not in touch frequently, I'll miss him terribly. I'll be travelling to Kentucky to sing at his funeral on Saturday and remembering how he drove through a snowstorm to be in Illinois for my ordination.
And it's snowing here. The Easter promise of the resurrection seems a little less shiny tonight, though I know it is there. If you are so inclined, I appreciate prayers for my dear friends above.

And more pics...

Little Daniel Robert practicing head control



Daniel and the Easter bunny
Annalivia arranging her hunted eggs at my mom and dad's house
One of the more hilarious Easter eggs, this one by Geoff

For some reason, my youngest sister, Kalin, managed to avoid being photographed. But here is my sister, Lil, brother in law, Jake, and their children, Cleya and Lirah

And here's my sister, Marissa, her boyfriend, the good Rev. Geoff, and her son, Rhys holding an egg that he decorated to look like her.
Marissa decorated an entire series of eggs to look like each of us. Those pics are on Lil's camera, though, so they'll have to come later.
Annalivia flowering the cross on Easter morning at church
The flowered cross. These flowers were given to us by my mother from her garden. They were going to be attacked by a frost, so she cut them down and gave them to me to be used for the purpose of celebrating the Resurrection. I thought it was a great metaphor for the Resurrection itself -- when death threatens the beauty we are created to be, Christ offers us the opportunity to be used for something greater. Pretty neat, eh?

We'll let her out of the house someday

In the meantime, she's highly protected.




Annalivia on her new tricycle with requisite safety gear. That racing suit is actually pajamas.

10 April 2007

My time, which is not mine

ARGH... today is one of those days that seems to have been allotted less time than other days. Between church folks in crisis, children needing something or other, food in the refrigerator that needs to be cooked before its last breath, toys and books and coloring papers all over the floor, dishes that need to be washed, children needing something else or another... I remain unshowered and unable to accomplish much of anything on any tasks associated with the aforementioned list. I'm only blogging because Daniel is eating and I can type with one hand and hold the bottle with my face at the same time (perhaps the only advantage to having a double chin.) Some days just seem to be stacked in the favor of a ticking clock. This is one.
Ok. I'm done whining.

09 April 2007

First family photo

Yes, 8 weeks after Daniel's birth, here's finally a photo with all four of us in it. And in our Easter finest. And freezing.


Oh, and happy, too.

Y'all will want to read this

More Cows has a great -- GREAT -- Easter sermon posted at her place. Makes me want to bookmark so that I can claim that my Easter preparation is done for next year, too!
BUT, I won't...

08 April 2007

The risen Christ is everywhere

On Maundy Thursday, my mother came up to hang out with Annalivia and Daniel while I was at our Upper Room dinner and Dennis was at school. Mom didn't end up leaving until about 9:30 p.m. About 25 minutes later, Mom called from her cell phone. She had happened upon a family who had hit a deer with their van. When Mom asked them where they were from, they said that they were from here. She offered to give them a ride home and eventually it came out that they had been living in their van for the last two months.
The couple is in their late twenties and have been married for five years. He is black. She is white. They have three children aged 3 and under. Her parents hate him because he's black. His parents tolerate her barely because she's white. After he lost his job in a factory, her aunt here in town said that she and the children could come live with them. He couldn't come. He's black, after all. But they had no other options, so she and the kids came here. He went home to Arkansas.
Here, the mom and kids tried to make a life. She had a job, then they found that the 8-month old baby has a heart condition that will require surgery in Rockford, north of here. She was in and out of doctors' offices and clinics, making working almost impossible. When the aunt lost her job, she said that she didn't want the kids in the house when she was home. So they tried to drive around while the aunt was at home. Eventually, the aunt suggested they move out completely. They moved into the van.
On Thursday, the family was on their way to her parents' house in Indiana, even though they knew that they'd have to be split up again. But they had no money or food. They had to do something. Her mother had sent her $40 for gas and tolls. She filled up the tank for $38, realized there was no way she would make it on the toll road that runs by our town, and headed south to pick up the next interstate.
When she hit the deer, the radiator on the van was finished. The headlights were broken. The airbag deployed. Two teens driving behind them stopped and offered to call 911. They were drinking beer, the woman said, and must not have called because no one came. My mom came upon them an hour later in 30 degree weather, called 911, and summoned a sheriff who got the van towed. Then Mom brought the family to the homeless shelter here in town.
They had to leave the homeless shelter at 7 a.m. We picked them up and took them to church then got them set up at a local motel that has a weekly rate of $155. The hotel is not the greatest place to be, but it is warm and has beds and a shower. And there's a laundromat there, all of which is a far cry from the seats of their van and bathrooms in rest areas where they have been taking sponge baths and trying to rinse out clothes for the last few months.
At the same time we were doing all of this, Dennis was talking to the guy who owns the place where the van was towed. We were worried about how much things would cost to have them repaired. A radiator, headlights and a new airbag are not cheap. We had a generous donation of $500 to help with the cost of the repairs, but we were worried it would be far more.
We were also worried about the family's supplies. The baby had one outfit which she was wearing and was filthy. The clothes they had were mostly moldy because they'd been washed out in rest area bathrooms and hung in the cold van to drip dry. And they needed shoes and bottles and suitcases or bags and diapers. It seemed kind of overwhelming.
I had only $200 in my discretionary account, most of which was spent on the motel room. I went to a local secondhand shop that always has cool Christian hip-hop and gospel blaring through the speakers. I picked up a bunch of stuff and at the counter, when asked about the various sizes, told the girls there about the family. They discounted everything 50% and took my name so that they could pass along other things when they find them.
I also got return calls from other pastors who offered to use their discretionary accounts, if necessary. The Catholic priest in particular, was very helpful in figuring out some basics in terms of care for these folks. And then the guy from the auto shop called. The van was done. Dennis and I went to get it and Dennis went in to pay for it. When he came out he handed me the bill and said, "The man's a saint." The bill was $50 to cover the cost of towing. The man had donated all labor and parts, and discounted the towing a heck of a lot. I almost cried.
And then there's my momma, who is just one of the most generous, giving, and compassionate women in the world. She spent the day getting clothes for the family and washing them all up, placing them in new suitcases and getting them ready for us to bring back to them after Easter.
After each new development, I would stop by the family's hotel room to explain what was happening to them. The mother wept openly every time I stopped by their room yesterday. Her husband whooped for joy when he heard about the van being fixed. They kept saying that they didn't understand why people were being so kind to them. In their hometowns, in their families, there was never grace or second chances or forgiveness. Why are they encountering it now?
I told them that this is our job as Christians -- to be Christ to others. The new life we have should change how we live this life, I told them. They didn't understand why this grace is offered now, but they want to, so they're coming to church today.
In the process of all of this, I have received renewed affirmation as to the power and presence of the Spirit in the followers of Jesus. As I said to Mom near the end of the day yesterday, after receiving the gift of that $50 receipt, "The risen Christ is everywhere."
And He is. It's HIM that this family is talking about -- this unseen thing that offers them and us grace abundant -- this reason "why?" which requires us to do better and be better than the standards set by the world around us. In the midst of life -- the pretty and ordered, as well as the messy and difficult -- He is risen. And it is our great privilege as Christ-followers to proclaim Him at church, at the grocery store, in the traffic lane, at the auto shop...
"I will not leave you comfortless, I will come to you," he says.
And he has.
He has come to this family, though they might not recognize Him yet. And he has come to me and my family, reminding us again of why we put on His name and call ourselves His.
He has come.
Alleluia! Christ is risen!
Christ is risen, indeed!

Have a blessed Easter, all.

03 April 2007

100 Things Contest

4/4: Please see prize update at bottom of post!!
In honor of the 100th day of the year, which is Tues. April 10, and all of the free time with which those of us in church leadership will find ourselves in the days immediately following Easter (y'all have not a thing to do, right?), I am sponsoring a 100 Things About Me contest.
The jist -- you write your 100 Things and post it here, and your name will be entered into a random drawing for a fabulous prize somehow related to the number 100. Actual rules follow.
More than receiving the token prize, I think the blessing for most of us will be in sharing this spiritual exercise together. God is with us all of our days -- the busy, the lazy, the joyous, the downright hard. I think sharing these Things, as mundane as they might seem, allows us to see, with a little more clarity, his fingerprints on our lives. At least, that is my hope. So whaddya say? You in?

Here are the rules:

1. Contest begins now and ends on April 15, thereby allowing all of us to focus on something in addition to getting our taxes to the post office by midnight. A winner will be named shortly thereafter.

2. Entries should be in the form created by lovely Queen Heroical at this link . Please number your list like hers, too.

"I have lived.." followed by 10 things
"I have witnessed..." followed by 10 things
"I have heard..." 10 things
"I have lost..." 10 things
"I have found..." 10 things
"I love..." 10 things
"I can..." 10 things
"I loathe..." 10 things
"I hope..." 10 things
"I am trying..." 10 things
Please use these categories, though you may rearrange them as you'd like. And though QH is amazingly creative, please try not to plagiarize her any more than necessary.


3. It's ok if entries were published before this contest began.

4. Entries must be posted in the comment section of this blog. Feel free to link to your blog, but do copy your Things here so we can all enjoy them in one spot.

5. Anyone can enter -- clergy, laity, man, woman, Jew or Greek, slave or free. Entrants must, however, be human and living on Earth. As charming as it is, I don't care about the 100 Things about one's pet. Sorry.

6. I reserve the right to erase any icky entries. Challenging is ok. Vulgar isn't.

Updated to add: I've decided the prize will be a gift certificate in the amount of ten sets of 100 pennies to Amazon.com. NOW are you in??

02 April 2007

The strife is o'er, the battle won...

I know I'm jumping the gun a little, but I just have to share some Easter excitement because the EASTER WORSHIP SERVICE PLANNING IS DONE!! Hurrah!!
My secretary is on a mission trip this week so I have to run the bulletins off and fold them, but that won't be hard -- BECAUSE THEY'RE DONE!!
I was so ticked off at my secretary last week when everything had to be done so early to accommodate this last minute mission trip, but now I'm very grateful -- BECAUSE EVERYTHING IS DONE!!
And now, for the first time in ministry, licensed and ordained (i.e. 10 years) I get to spend Holy Week actually (gasp) thinking about the Holy, not the minutiae of what goes where and when. And why is that again? BECAUSE IT'S DONE, DONE, DONE!!
Can you tell I'm a little excited?
DONE!!!!
done, done, done, done....done!

01 April 2007

Little Sawyer James arrives

Little Sawyer James was born to Amy and Jim on Mar. 31 at 2:43 p.m. He was 1 lb. 9 oz., having been born at 23 weeks and 6 days.
Sawyer's got a long way to go, but his dad reports that, "He is an extremely handsome and very feisty little boy already." We're cheering for all of them here, but I know they appreciate your continued prayers as well.

28 March 2007

I guess social graces come later

Yesterday, after the funeral for our patriarch, I came home to pick up Annalivia and Daniel and take them to church for the funeral lunch. I had dressed Annalivia in one of her cutest spring dresses, complete with bobby socks and shoes the same color of the dress. She was behaving wonderfully, too, greeting people right and left and smiling. Oh, and also she was holding onto my hand and walking beside me. Those of you who know her can imagine how proud Mommy was at this rare and timely convergence of appropriate manners and behavior.
So we walked into the fellowship hall at church and went to say hello to the ladies in the kitchen. Annalivia walked in and smiled at everyone, saying hello, engaged in some chit chat with some of the ladies, then when she had everyone's attention, proceeded to grab her diaper area and shout (and I do mean SHOUT), "Poooooooooop!"
Yes. Well. Like I said, I guess social graces come a little later.

27 March 2007

Googled

So I googled myself tonight as I was avoiding writing my newsletter article and found this link. For those who don't care to read it, it's a sermon by someone who was quoting part of a sermon that I had published in a book a couple of years ago. I think, in academic standards, the gentleman would have been found guilty of pretty heavy plagiarism, but at least he parentheses-ed me. How crazy is that?

24 March 2007

I've seen that look somewhere before...


This is the McClure Look of Consternation. (The Stewarts have a version, too, but it involves one's mouth being slightly open.) Glad I could pass something on to my son...

23 March 2007

Accident injury update

Today we went to see our orthopedic surgeon in Rockford to have the progress on our wrists, ankles, and Dennis' toe checked out.
The good news: Dennis is doing really well with his wrist, fingers and toe (this first pic is of his internal bling). He's had some pain in his sprained ankle, but the doc said that should continue to get better.
The bad news: My ulna bone is not regenerating. Apparently the ulna is a hard bone to regrow and when it has 17 breaks, well... (here's a pic of my bragging rights). Further, a pin has broken in the wrist causing elbow pain. The doctor thinks that there is also some loose cartilage in the elbow causing it to ache and pop related somehow to the wrist injury (I'm unclear about how that would work...)

The good news: There is an electro therapy thingamabopper (that's its official title) that I can wear that will hopefully prompt the bone to grow again. I will wear it for 8-12 hours a day and they'll check it again in 6 weeks, though they'll give it 3 months to start the bone regrowth.

The bad news: If this doesn't work, I'll need a bone graft. When he was explaining taking bone from my pelvis to graft to my wrist, I, who is generally just not at all squeamish, felt physically ill. I hope it doesn't come to that.

The good news: We are less than 30 weeks from the accident and have experienced a lot of healing.

The bad news: Further treatment drags out the possibility of an insurance settlement and some money to pay these doctors' offices. We know that eventually the other drivers' insurance will pay everything, but in the meantime dealing with creditors is tiring. They aren't real pleased about waiting.

The BEST news: We are alive with BOTH of our children.
Today Daniel, Annalivia and I picked up Dennis just like I did that morning. I drove up the same road and by the accident site for the first time since then. I felt like it was time to slay that dragon.
Oh, we are so, so, so blessed... We were both reconstructing our memories and I was telling Dennis that I will never forget the sound of his voice when he saw what was happening. I just knew something was very, very wrong. And I don't think I'll ever forget thinking that I would obviously lose the baby and just praying again and again the 23rd Psalm as I breathed past the pain and focused on my Celtic cross visor clip.
That we are HERE -- right now in our living room -- me holding that baby I thought was lost -- Dennis standing in his stocking feet just like he was on the side of the road, having left his shoes wedged up inside the van so he could come and wrench my door open with his bone sticking out of his arm -- the daughter we left at home that day unfolding clothes for us right now... Geesh... all the rest of it seems so very, very inconsequental when I think of what could be. I'll still put the other paragraphs up to let those who have inquired know, but really, the only news that should matter is this part. We're here. We may still be broken, but we're here. Thank God.

Friday Five: Rivers in the desert

Songbird writes:

I am about to do a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. Isaiah 43:19, NRSV

As we near the end of the long journey toward Easter, a busy time for pastors and layfolk alike, I ponder the words of Isaiah and the relief and refreshment of a river in the desert.

For this Friday Five, name five practices, activities, people or _____ (feel free to fill in something I may be forgetting) that for you are rivers in the desert.


1. Purposeless driving
I love to just set out and think...pray...drive. It's nice to see where I end up, but what's along the way is even nicer.

2. Hanging wit' my sistahs
My three sistahs are renewal itself -- my favorite way to recharge. If I could bottle Kali's wit and Lil's laugh and Rissy's phrasing, well... no one would buy it, but I'd be awfully happy.

3. Listening to good music... or not
Sometimes I like to listen to Palestrina or Vaughan Williams or Rachmoninoff really loudly. Sometimes I want to hear Fred Astaire or the Andrews Sisters. Sometimes it's Uncle Tupelo or Paul Simon in the background. But sometimes quiet is what my soul really needs.

4. Having an empty dining room table
Yeah, it sounds weird, but clearing off the table in the parsonage's open living plan offers visual respite like nothing else.

5. Watching Dennis and Annalivia play
I love, love, love it when the loves of my life have laughter just bubbling up between them. That is beyond refreshing; it's sacred to me.

Prayers for baby Sawyer

My friend, Amy, is someone I've mentioned before on this blog. Amy and her husband, Jim, lost their little boy Brian last July when he was born at 22 weeks gestation. Now Amy is now a little past 22 weeks pregnant with their second son, Sawyer, and is experiencing a lot of difficulty. She had a cerclage procedure in which the cervix was sewn closed because she needs to carry little Sawyer as long as possible so that he will have a chance to make it outside of the womb. However, she has been dealing with infections that are causing her cervix to funnel, or open from the inside.
Right now the cerclage is holding. Amy is on complete bedrest and is being cared for by her husband who is also working full-time and her parents. They are all people of strong faith and are counting on God to carry them forward. They know that lots of people are praying for them, but I'd like to ask your prayers also for the entire family. Please pray specifically for Amy and Jim, and especially for little Sawyer. They need physical and emotional and spiritual strength right now. If you'd lift them up, I'd appreciate it.

22 March 2007

The feta factory and the ketchup queen

Annalivia is going through a ketchup phase. She'll eat most anything if it has ketchup slathered on it. And if someone is reminding her to bite into her food. Otherwise, she just sucks the ketchup off of whatever mode of transportation the ketchup has taken to her mouth. Yesterday she was eating it plain off of her fingers.
Daniel, on the other hand, is a little feta cheese factory. He never did catch on to breastfeeding, so we turned to formulas, which was just an icky adventure. Finally, I settled on making my own goat's milk formula, which is great because it has goat's milk, water and syrup in it and that's it. Nothing I can't pronounce. It's also significantly less expensive than formula. (He does have to take a vitamin supplement, fyi).
The only downside of this solution is in the fact that for some reason, both of my children have been spitters. Now he constantly smells like a little feta cheese container. But he's healthy and pretty happy, and that's what counts, right?

(And yes, I do realize that my last two posts have been about sleeping and eating. I'm stopping here, I promise.)

HURRAH!!

Little Daniel actually slept for about 5 hours last night! Then he went back to sleep for another 3 hours. And now he's back to sleep again.
I feel like a new person. It's amazing what a stretch of sleep in a real bed will do for the body. Wow.

21 March 2007

Blog bump

Since Daniel was born, I've had a hard time posting to this here weblog. I've started about 10 posts that are in various stages of completion before they were interrupted by either Daniel or Annalivia's needs. I may or may not finish them.
The other stumbling block is the stuff that is on my mind. When I became a parent, I was amazed at how fascinating one's child's biological functions become. Basically, a newborn sleeps, eats and evacuates. The sleeping and eating are pretty standard, even if there is a sore lack of the former and the latter has some problem-solving associated with it. Which leaves evacuation to be the focus of one's thoughts. And really, no one except my husband is interested in it (and he, like me, is disturbingly interested in it), so I've been choosing to spare y'all.
But I've been thinking a lot. And eventually, one of these days, I'll post something of interest. Maybe.

Privilege of ministry #1,387

So the patriarch of our church is dying.

He's 92 and has been suffering from Alzheimers for the last 9 months. He was taken to the hospital Monday morning and it was discovered that he suffered a heart attack and has pneumonia. The family has authorized only pain meds to be administered. Now they are just waiting for death to come.

This man is the son-in-law of the beloved pastor who was here for 47 years. The beloved pastor's daughter is 90 and still in our church. So is her daughter and their family.

When the beloved pastor (BP) retired, he tried to pass the church to this man. This man felt he couldn't do ministry as well as his father-in-law (and from what I hear, Jesus himself could have learned a thing or two from the bp), so he declined. And he always regretted it. But he was a devoted servant and led this church even without the title.

I have been with the family a lot so far this week and it is clear to me that he was also the spiritual rock of this family. His children have left his side only to force their mother to go home and go to bed, grandkids have been driving and flying in, great-grandchildren have been seen, legs impatiently swinging, in the lobby chairs at the hospital... he is very much loved.

And probably the most inspiring thing to me is that they are all very ready to let him go Home. They have a faith in Heaven that puts this pastor to shame -- such a strong belief in the glory of the Promise that they all smile through their tears. As one of his daughters said, "It's almost like we're excited for the funeral so that we can really just celebrate his new life. We need that."

I think all in my little church need a real celebration of life, too. I know I need it. It would do us good to remember that there is Life beyond us -- beyond budget woes or ministry challenges or service attendance. There is Life.

And it is just like this guy to give us this gift. He was an amazing servant in life and he'll be an inspiration even in death. I'm grateful for the opportunity to celebrate with his family. To think I get paid for this...

20 March 2007

Recipe:Bunnies in the green garden or Fishies in the grass soup

If there is one thing that I truly fail at, it's feeding my family enough vegetables. What makes this even more sinful is that every week, I buy veggies for us to eat and every week we end up throwing veggies into the trash. It's terrible.
This week, a couple of zucchini, three bunches of broccoli and two bags of salad have been shaming me every time I opened up the refrigerator. Yesterday, I came to a reckoning with the zucchini and cooked it with some stuffed chicken breasts. Dennis ate it, but Annalivia declined to be so enticed.
Today, I confronted the broccoli and also some leftover brown rice and made one of my favorite soups. After I made it up, I sprinkled some goldfish crackers on top and told Annalivia that the fishies were hiding in the grass. She ate it up and for her second bowl, I sprinkled Annie's Cheddar Bunnies on top and told her it was bunnies in the garden.
So I accomplished two things -- I used the veggies and I actually got Annalivia to eat them. Now if only we can figure out what to do with salad for 20...

Bunnies in the Green Garden Soup (or No Cream Creamy Broccoli Soup -- original recipe here)
5-6 pieces of celery
15ish baby carrots
3 stalks of broccoli, chopped coarsely
2 cans of chicken broth
2 ish cups of cooked brown rice
Cook in a big pot til veggies are tender. Whirl in batches in a blender to desired chunkiness/ smoothness. Then add, if desired...
1 cup milk
1/4 parmesan cheese.

Heat and eat. It's SO good (and the milk and parm is really pretty optional -- it's good without it!)
Top with cheddar bunnies or goldfish!

19 March 2007

Praying for Bill

My dear friend, Bill, my supervising pastor in seminary, whom I wrote about here, is entering a phase of intensive chemotherapy. It has about a 30% survival rate and is meant to be a bridge to a transplant procedure that has a 20% survival rate.
If you are so inclined, would you join me in praying for him and his family? Many thanks.

16 March 2007

Digital redemption

Our pictures are safe!! HURRAH!!

The computer will be back tomorrow. It only cost $90 and we only lost a few things, but all of the pictures are safe. Wake-up call, it was! Go forth and back up!!

13 March 2007

A danger of digital dependence

So my laptop has died.
It was either an act of Annalivia, who was trying to fit the power source plug into other holes in the back of the computer, or Jesus, since I was literally just finishing typing a sentence that read something like, "I'm being called to better stewardship -- of myself, my resources, my children and my time."
I was not all that upset about it until Dennis came out and tried to fix it and we suddenly realized that all of our pictures from the last 18 months are on that computer and we have not backed them up.
So -- let this be a lesson unto you, cyber friends!! GO HOME AND BACK UP YOUR PHOTOS!!
We are taking the computer to a computer doctor today and I'm praying -- praying, praying, praying -- that even if the $800 laptop cannot be saved that they'll be able to take off the photos. Sermons and church stuff would be nice, too, but photos are all we care about right now.
If anyone else wants to pray that this will just end up to be a wake-up call rather than a rude awakening -- well, we'd appreciate it.

12 March 2007

Powerful motivators

During Lent, we have been joining our sister church in our twin-city area for a mid-week worship service we call Soup for the Soul. We meet for a brief half-hour service, then we have a simple soup supper afterwards. It has been incredibly well-attended and has been a great experience, which is wonderful, because these two churches have long and somewhat contentious histories. When a crisis happens there, we tend to get their evacuees. Similarly when a crisis happens in our church, they get our evacuees, which is what happened most recently. Also these churches never seem to be able to thrive at the same time. When we do well, they are in crisis. When they do well, we seem to be in decline (and right now they are doing VERY well, so you know where we are in the cycle...)
So my church has been doing this service for five years by ourselves. Traditionally our services have been casual, casual, casual. Uber casual. I wear jeans, stand on the floor, ask for volunteers to read the scriptures, sing a capella, have recorded Taize music for communion, etc. It has been a nice mid-week respite and the one year we didn't have it there was mass dissension, so this year, because I was going to be on maternity leave, I asked our sister church to join us. And they have. Every other week, we trade hosting responsibilities and for the first three weeks, my colleague preached and I will preach for the last three.
ANYWAY, what has been interesting is that the services started at the other church and so they got to set the tone -- which was complete with a liturgist, organ, suited pastor in pulpit and I'm not sure if the pastor over there just did not hear my repeated insistence that the services be casual or whether he had other ideas from the start.
Whatever it is, having visitors from the OTHER church has been a powerful motivator for my people. Broken things are getting fixed, the sanctuary has been all decked out, and yesterday after church a couple of folks came up and asked if we could pay our pianist extra so that she could be at the service on Wednesday.
I guess that's the way it works for all of us; we all want to impress the neighbors on some level. But I wish that the motivator was being good stewards of what we have and sharing our best with everyone regardless of whether they are the wealthy relatives or not. But perhaps that's a little too much to hope for...

11 March 2007

The saddle remains...

And I am back in it.
Today was the first day back at regular worship for me. It went well. It is a beautiful day -- gorgeous, actually, and despite the fact that the entire church was sleep-deprived from the time change, their pastor foremost among them, but not necessarily because of the time change, the sun being out and folks who were not frozen upon entering the congregation made for a pretty happy church. And there was a new baby to coo at and that never hurts.
My sermon was good on paper, poorer in execution. I felt a little off -- by the end, I felt like I was able to execute it pretty well, but in the middle -- not so much. And there were about 5 people asleep, which is pretty unusual, but had I been sitting out there, I'd have been one of them and not necessarily because of the subject matter.
Anyway. Church was good, and I'm sure it will get a little better.
We went out to lunch afterwards. That was not part of the plan. Culvers has a walleye sandwich that is just delicious, so we had fish. For some reason, I've been craving fish lately. This happened after I had Annalivia, too. I wonder if my body is needing Omega-3's?
We are now home and I'm getting ready to get Annalivia down for a nap and then get Daniel fed so that I can take a little snooze, too. Although, right now, Annalivia is practicing her jumping, which is one of the most hilarious things ever -- jumping is hard work, you know -- so perhaps I should feed Daniel now. Dennis ended up sleeping out on the couch with him most of the night so I could get solid sleep for my first sermon back after leave, which was very nice of him. But rather than taking a nap, he's going to be headed outside where beautiful weather is beckoning him to fix things.
But me -- I'm being beckoned to my pillow.

10 March 2007

The perfect Pandora mix

I have finally found two perfect stations at Pandora. The first is a station based on Uncle Tupelo and Mason Jennings. The second is created from Colin Hay (thanks, Amy, for reminding me about him!). I hardly ever skip songs. Awesome background music for computer stuff.

09 March 2007

Trial separation

I went to see my OB today for my post-partum visit. She said I don't have to come back until next year.
After seeing me at least twice a week for six-seven months, she doesn't want to see me anymore? Just like that?
I told her and the nurses that I'd try to cope, but that they should not be surprised if I accept their invitations to just show up periodically to get my Dr. -Stone's-office fix.
A whole year! I'm going to miss them...

Friday Five: A Matter of Taste (following instructions this time)

Ok. Well, I did this with things I don't like that others around me do. Now here's what I do like -- this is a much easier list:

1. Routines and schedules
Not that I follow them or keep to them, but I like the idea of them, which I think most of my free-flowing family does not

2. Sleeping through the night
Daniel, the person who has been closest to me most recently (i.e. inside of me) does not like to sleep more than an hour and a half at night. Me -- I'm fond of a good 8-10 hours.

3. Keeping water IN the sink when doing dishes
Annalivia is currently exploring how well containers with no tops or bottoms hold water. Apparently she hasn't reached a verdict yet because the experiment continues...

4. A church with members under 40
Ummm, I would think this would be a no-brainer for most church folks, but given the actions of the beloved folks here, I believe otherwise...

5. Blogging
I think everyone I know should have a blog. It would be nice to see how they'd answer this.

Friday Five: A Matter of Taste

From the Rev Gals:
"My mother loved figs.

I only like them in a Newton.

It's all a matter of taste.

Name five things you like a lot that some close relative or significant other did/does not like. This could be food, movies, hobbies, music, sports or whatever springs to mind."

edited to add: Well, apparently reading instructions is not one of my loves. Here's a list of things I DON'T like that others in my family do. Ooops. Read my list following the above instructions here.
1. Ham
My family members all love ham, especially for Easter. My mom is really an excellent cook and prepares ham in a way that makes it really as good as ham can get, but I really don't like ham. And Dennis can't really eat it, so we never do. But we are definitely the odd folks out in our family.

2. Animals
Not a fan of animals, especially indoor pets. This puts me at odds with 80% of my friends and 59% of my family.

3. Retentively clean cars
I mean , they look nice, but why have one? Cars are for getting one from place to place. If a spare pretzel on the floor destroys that, well...

4. The Lord of the Rings movies and books.
Saw the first one -- 3 hours of my life I'll never get back. I think this puts me at odds with approximately 99% of my conservative Christian friends and 95% of all boys between the ages of 8 and 17.

5. The hymns "I was there to hear your borning cry", "Here I am, Lord" and especially, "Spirit of Restlessness, Gentleness and blah blah blah" (not its real title)
They just seem to go on and on to me. And one of them has been in almost every ordination service ever, including mine (Borning Cry -- my home church's choir picked it out to sing for me, so I kept my mouth shut.) This puts me at odds with 98% of all clergy and nearly 100% of female clergy.
Please -- try not to hold it against me.

07 March 2007

The family bed

We have a big king-sized bed and though the kids have their own places to sleep, they often end up with us, sometimes, like last night, sooner, rather than later. And though I sometimes think of the family bed as an inconvenience, last night as Annalivia pressed herself into my back and threw her arm around me, and Daniel snuggled into my side, and Dennis let out a long sigh in his sleep, I realized that if life never got any better than this, it would be great beyond measure. We have a family to put in our bed. What a gift.

06 March 2007

Slow-ish return

Yesterday marked the end of Phase I of my maternity leave -- absence from the pulpit, and therefore, more understandable absence from the rest of the workings of the church. I've been fielding phone calls since two hours into that part of the leave, but for the most part, I was gone. It was nice.
But now we're onto the beginning of Phase II or what I called "Slow Return." Basically, I proposed that instead of the 6 week leave I took with Annalivia, this time I'd take 4 weeks off of preaching and then over the next four weeks, be involved in preaching and whatever I could do, but not be expected to be in the office during the day.
Which I'm glad I stipulated because this week holds two meetings, one choir rehearsal and one mid-week worship service, and a board meeting. And I have to write a sermon and do a bulletin for the first time in a month. Ick.
Why isn't there something in the "take up your cross and follow" passage that exempts parents until they are sleeping at least 6 hours at a time? I'll talk this over with Jesus and let y'all know if he has reconsidered.

02 March 2007

Friday Five: Artsy Crafty

From the RevGals:
"During Lent here at Suburban Presbyterian Church, we are exploring the creative and liturgical arts, with classes and speakers dealing with storytelling, iconography, dance, visual art, writing, and so on. The theme is "A Beautiful Thing," inspired by the story of the woman anointing Jesus and his declaration that "She has done a beautiful thing for me." (Mark 14, NIV)

We are working on the notion that everything we do can be considered a beautiful thing--a creative offering to God--whether it's gardening or scrapbooking or accounting or sorting clothes at the clothes closet or child-rearing. And so:
1. Would you call yourself "creative"? Why or why not?
I would because I like to create. One of my favorite things about being a pastor is that there are so many opportunities to be co-creative with God. What other job is there where one can choose fonts for a newsletter or make banners or put words together or arrange music and images and get to count that as paid time? AND ministry, to boot?
2. Share a creative or artistic pursuit you currently do that you'd like to develop further.
I really like to play with photos digitally. Here's a couple of my recent experiments with one-color "pops":

And I really do like to do print media things -- newsletter, flyers, etc. And I like using my musical abilities to direct our church choir. Right now we're working on a lessons and carols type thing for Easter Sunday. I'm really pretty excited about it. As a trained musician, I always hated singing in church choir, but directing it -- that's actually fun.
3. Share a creative or artistic pursuit you have never done but would like to try.
I've been wanting to do some artwork with the collage media -- basically using a whole lotta Mod Podge to create something. I have a couple of images in my mind that I'd like to get out at some point. There just never seems to be time.
4. Complete this sentence: "I am in awe of people who can _____________."
Play piano well. I'm downright jealous. After 8 years of piano lessons, I should be one of them, but I think I practiced for about 35 combined minutes during that time. Oh, if only I could tell 9-year old April that she'd regret getting creative about how to shirk her practice time!
5. Share about a person who has encouraged your creativity, who has "called you to your best self."
I am blessed to come from a family who understood the need to be creative. My mother required that my sister's teachers would let her have time to draw instead of asking her to put her paper and pencil away. Around our home, we always had lots of music, lots of crayons and markers and pencils and REAL watercolors, space to dance, etc. And we had art and music and dance lessons when we wanted them, which I'm sure was a difficult financial burden. So , I guess I'll always be grateful for my family's commitments to creativity, but especially the efforts of Mom.

01 March 2007

Just put some breath into it already

Celtic Woman is on PBS right now. It is disconcerting to me that these women can open their mouths so wide and make such little noise. I wonder what they do with the other 89% of their lung capacity.

Overwhelming tiredness

Oh man, I am tired. Tired in the way that I keep falling asleep sitting up and anytime I sit down, my whole inside just seems to settle downwards. Tired in the sense that when I do fall asleep, I sleep way too hard to be a good mother right now.
I've ditched some of my friends this weekend because of it. This weekend was to hold a visit from Jimmy and Joby, my seminary homeboys -- two of my dearest friends who basically hauled me through seminary despite my kicking, screaming, and crying. I don't know what I would have done without them. Trina is my best friend from my childhood. We became best friends in fifth grade and have matured (at least a little) together and have granted each other a good deal of grace in the process, for which I am continually grateful. Somewhere along the line, Trina came to visit me when I was in seminary and the boy who lived next door to me came in the room, eventually stuck his finger in her ear in a bizarre form of flirting, and three years later, they married. They added little Ethan to their family two months after Annalivia joined ours. The rest is history.
Anyway, the amigos were all to visit this weekend, but I've cancelled on them. Ditched them, I think, would be accurate. Daniel has been reacting poorly to formula and sleeping badly. The poor little guy's belly gets hard and he grunts and groans and then cries for a long while. I keep thinking that if he'd just nurse, this would all work itself out. But perhaps not. Trying to entice a baby to nurse is not exactly the kind of entertainment I want to share with others, even these dearest of friends. That's my excuse, but the truth is I'm just so darn tired. So I've ditched them. I'm sad though. I hadn't realized how much I was looking forward to seeing them.
Instead, we are going to be spending the next couple of days recharging (I hope). Dennis has been working so hard this week, staying up every night to finish papers and getting far too little sleep. Annalivia has been entertaining herself while I take naps on the couch whenever Daniel sleeps. I think we all need to spend some time lounging around together, playing, and sleeping whenever possible.
And maybe we'll be over the big tiredness by Saturday when Dennis' family is going to be visiting and Sunday when we are going to go down to celebrate Annalivia's birthday and take Daniel to meet my family. That's my hope at least.

27 February 2007

Baby boy breast boycott

So. Little Daniel Robert is heading into week three of the Great Breast Boycott of 07.
He still won't latch on and nurse, preferring instead to have a silicone bottle nipple forced into his mouth while he reclines and lets engineered and artificial ingredient-laden formula drip into this mouth.
As a processed-food aficionado, I can sympathize. It is, however, quite frustrating for this mother who nursed Annalivia for 15 months after a tumultuous start and just assumed that baby #2, who was, gestationally, a whole two weeks older, would be able to nurse like a little champ. Not so, not so. And it ticks me off.

When Annalivia was born and I found myself tethered to her side 24/7 and at her beckon call, I developed a whole theology based on breastfeeding. It basically went something like this -- God is the Big Boob in the Sky* who offers everything that God's children need in terms of nourishment, nurture, etc., is constantly in demand, constantly offers Godself again and again even unto the point of giving God's entire being to us....
(And now, adding to the theology based on my experiences with Daniel)
...which we still don't find satisfactory and thus seek artificial substitutes that fill us with lesser nutrients for our lives, but somehow fulfill enough in us to keep us placated for a little while at which point we will start crying out to God for the nourishment which is offered all along, but which we will not accept. And then we'll seek out the fake stuff again and be placated again. For two or three hours, at least.
That sounds about right, eh?
It's a wonder God is so patient with us. I'd be really, really ticked off.

*And lest you think this is just as blasphemous as can be, please note that the term El Shaddai in the Bible, which is translated, "God almighty," is derived from the Hebrew word "shad" meaning in all its translations in the scriptures, "breast," and thus, perhaps El Shaddai would be better translated, "God the great breast-like" or less literally, "God all-sufficient". "Boob" may be, perhaps, a little coarse...

25 February 2007

Well, it figures...

... that the first time that First Christian Church has cancelled church in the five and one-half years that I've been pastor is on a Sunday when I'm "off" and don't have to preach anyway. Hmph.

How a Love-Bug grows


Little Annalivia Adaline is 2 years old today!

Two years ago as I watched her emerge into this world, I had this vague and surreal notion that my life was about to be forever, blessedly changed. What I did not understand was just how amazing I would feel looking in her eyes, receiving her smiles, hearing her sweet little voice, even being subjected to her fits and fights. Or how wonderful I would feel just thinking about her.
I look at this little creature in front of me and I am reminded again that, for me, there has been no greater tangible evidence of God's grace and love than my babies. Throughout my life, I prayed for her without knowing it was little Annalivia for whom I was praying. She arrived and for the last two years, I have been so astonished that God would answer my prayer so completely as to gift us with her. What a privilege this is to be her mother!
Happy birthday, little love. Your momma loves you.
"I have just dropped into the very place I have been seeking, but in everything it exceeds all my dreams." Isabella Bird (but seconded heartily by me!)

24 February 2007

Oh, please, say it isn't so

We just saw our first campaign ad -- Mitt Romney running for President -- but that election is IN FREAKIN' 2008!!!
I know we live close to Iowa, but this is just ridiculous...

23 February 2007

Lenten prayer possibility with thanks to Amalee

Hurrah for Amalee who sent this wonderful link to Sacred Space!! It's a great Lenten prayer spot -- time to pray, think, read scripture, offer requests -- all in a great format presented lovingly by the Irish Jesuits.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Amalee! I never get to tell you that I read your blog all the time and highly recommend it to anyone else who needs a little vacation to Derbyshire now and then. Right now you've got some gorgeous hyacinth pictures that are helping me curse the "Winter Storm" warning pressing down on northern Illinois this afternoon!

Parenting lessons

Annalivia is fussy today. So is Daniel. Well, for that matter, so am I. But of all of us, Annalivia is definitely the most fussy. She just seems to have no resilience today. Every thing that is off or wrong or inconvenient or delayed seems to shatter her little world.
Before baby #2, I'd think she had an ear infection. Now, I don't know. She is fever-less and has endured a lot of change in the last two weeks. And she's turning two in two days. My instinct is that she's just fussy. Which I understand, because, as I said, I'm fussy, too.
But that doesn't make it any easier to figure out. I'm trying to give her lots of love and plenty of advance warning and lenience on the things that don't matter in the grand scheme of things.
And for this moment, it seems to be working. Right now, she's taking care of her baby doll, lying on the couch with it and kissing it and patting its back. And "shhh"ing very lovingly when she pretends that it is crying.
It's a good thing that she knows how to take care of her doll's fussiness. I should probably take notes.

22 February 2007

Our big boy

We took Daniel to see his doctor today for his two-week visit. Two weeks. Jeez, time flies. Pretty soon, two years will have gone speeding past.
Anyway, Little D is not so little anymore. He weighed in at 7 lbs 12 oz, which is good, especially considering the fact that he is still not nursing. And he's a couple of inches longer -- 21 1/2 now.
The doctor also heard a heart murmur, so we are going to go see a pediatric cardiologist just to be sure all is well. I'm not worried, though Dennis is. Daniel had two fetal EKG's that showed no abnormalities and Dr. Provow didn't hear the murmur when she saw him last week, nor did the pediatrician who saw him after he was born. So, as Dennis said, he may not play football. As long as it doesn't interfere with his career as a piano, guitar and fiddle virtuoso, we'll be fine... :)

21 February 2007

Space where one can find it...

So this afternoon, I rearranged the living room. It occurred to me as I was pushing the couch across the room that this is perhaps the sort of thing one's doctor would expressly forbid one from doing two weeks postpartum. On the other hand, it is the sort of thing one definitely wants to do before one runs out of Tylenol 3 with codeine. I'm just sayin'...
ANYWAY, with Daniel's birth I find myself back at that place wherein baby stuff takes over one's life and one's home. The swing and the bassinet and the baby bathtub and bottles and the breastpump and its paraphenalia and later the baby food and baby dishes. All of it is here. And though I know we don't need all of it, it all makes life a little easier. It just all takes up a lot of space. So it needs a place to belong where it hasn't before.
With Annalivia, this phase seemed to last until...well...what day is it? I mean, MOST of her stuff is finally in her bedroom, but there's still lots of evidence of her presence in this home. And honestly, I'm ok with that. I like having children. I like that their lives are intricately intertwined and woven with mine and my husband's.
What I'm not so fond of is stubbing my toe on the baby swing at 2:30 a.m. Or watching Dennis and Annalivia try to build a train set and not bump into the bassinet. Or trying to hold my upper body a few inches closer to the pump's cord that doesn't adequately reach an outlet.
So I've rearranged. And perhaps strained my back a little. And the living room is not as pretty as it was. Which, I confess, bugs me.
But it gives us some space -- visually, physically, and most important, mentally.
And that's probably worth the sacrifice of aesthetics.
And the pills I'll probably pop tonight, too.
If there's one thing that parenting has taught me, it's to take mental space where one can find it. Even if you have to haul a couch across a room to do so.

20 February 2007

Oops (or "How an entire liturgical season managed to sneak up and surprise this pastor")

So, um, Lent starts tomorrow.

Oh, not surprised by that?

Well. How nice for you.

I, on the other hand, have almost completely and totally been taken by surprise. Lent begins tomorrow!! Ack!

To be fair, I should mention, I am on maternity leave right now. Today begins week 3 of the whopping 4 weeks I decided to take. (I'm REALLY wishing I'd planned to take 6 weeks and that I would have decided I to just deal with the attendant fussiness of the congregants instead of being ultra-accomodating. )
Before I had Daniel, I got all my bulletins together for my absence and arranged to hold cooperative services with the DOC church across the river on Wednesday evenings. Each week, the services will switch between our two congregations as to which church hosts. And my colleague at the other church is officiating the first three services and I'm officiating the last three. So tomorrow, there will be a Disciples service offered for my congregants, though it won't be at our church, and I think I'm going to pack up the kids and go. Dennis will be at class, but his mom is planning on being there and we can give it a practice run or two before she has to handle both of them at the services that I'm officiating.
I'm actually looking forward to it. I personally love Lent -- I think it's my favorite church season. It's focused and meaningful and full of imagery and possibilities for creativity.
I never manage to do very well observing it personally though, because I tend to be too focused on church stuff. This year, with this little mini-respite at the beginning, I feel like perhaps I could do a better job applying Lent to my own spiritual growth. So I'm going to be thinking about how to do that in the next two hours left in this day. And probably a little more tomorrow.
I just wish it would have occurred to me last week that Lenten possibilities were on the very near horizon. But better late than never, right? Right?

Cruelty, thy name is public broadcasting

Poor Dennis. In addition to his regular rather grueling work schedule which involves waking at 4:30, he's working on two MBA classes and fathering an infant and a toddler. And he's doing a lot of laundry. A whole lotta laundry.
Which means the poor man doesn't get much time to relax, and whenever there is time to relax, there are lots of "shoulds" hanging over him -- he should be studying or playing with a kid or doing laundry or whatever.
Last night as he was dutifully trying to hammer out some homework, I turned on PBS. Now perhaps only those who know Dennis will sympathize, but Antiques Roadshow was on and seemed to be focusing on guns, maps, and history. Then American Experience was about the building of the New York subway. To top it off, the next show was about the construction of the Brooklyn Bridge. I watched the programs on really low volume with the captions on. He managed to come into the room only about 20 times. After that, I turned it all off.
Poor guy. When PBS hits back, it can really hurt.
But, as he pointed out, if the universe were really aligned against him, tonight would have been programs on the Trans-continental railroad, the use of modern firearms in winning World Wars, and the engineering of the Erie canal. And Friday, when there is plenty of time to indulge in a little television, there would be a four-hour marathon on wildflowers in North America.
As it was, he had lots of time tonight to play with Annalivia, hold Daniel, fold laundry AND do homework. All of this, but no tv. Maybe next Monday will work out for him.

16 February 2007

Friday Five: Tourist edition

I feel a bit like I've been under house arrest since Daniel was born and it's been so bloody cold and the snow is endless, so, enough with the whining; I'm playing this Friday Five.

1. What is one place you make sure to take out-of-town guests when they visit?
I try to take them out-of-town, I suppose. Industrial northwestern Illinois is not exactly a tourist attraction.


2. When visiting another city or town, do you try to cram as much in as possible, or take it slow and easy?
I am definitely a try-to-cram-it-all-in type. Then I always want to go back and really explore a place.


3. When traveling, where are we most likely to find you: strolling through a museum, checking out the local shopping, or _________________?
Trying to be a hip local, if possible. One of my favorite things to do is to go to a cafe and order the local treat (i.e. beignets is New Orleans, brioche in Salzburg) and watch people. People watching and treat-eating are great ways to experience a place.

4. Do you like organized tours and/or carefully planned itineraries, or would you rather strike out and just see what happens?
I'd much rather strike out, but do like to do my research. We have many copies of well-worn Frommer's guides here, though I've not been to most of the places detailed therein.


5. After an extended trip, what do you find yourself craving most about home?

My bed, and though this sounds weird, my bathroom. I really like not having to pull everything out of a suitcase to get ready in the morning.

14 February 2007

And again and again and again...


It is Valentine's Day and since the tulips from Daniel's birth are still fresh on the table, I am not expecting any flowers today. And since we've been snowed in, I don't expect a card either. And I don't think massages or pedicures will be on the table, though I've been surprised before...
The truth is, Dennis has demonstrated his deep love for me and our children a thousand ways today already and it's only 10 a.m. This Valentine's Day -- regardless of flowers or cards or anything else, I feel more loved than ever.
I've stated it before, and could say it every moment of every day for as long as I live and still leave it underemphasized -- the fact that this man has chosen to love me is the greatest blessing I've ever received. Thank you, sweetheart, for this gift. I love you. Happy Valentine's Day.

If ever two were one, then surely we.
If ever man were lov'd by wife, then thee.
If ever wife was happy in a man,
Compare with me, ye women, if you can.
I prize thy love more than whole Mines of gold,
Or all the riches that the East doth hold.
My love is such that Rivers cannot quench,
Nor ought but love from thee give recompense.
Thy love is such I can in no way repay;
The heavens reward thee manifold I pray.
Then while we live, in love lets so persever,
That when we live no more, we may live ever.
~Anne Bradstreet

13 February 2007

The little princess' new table and chairs


Annalivia's Christmas present from Grandma Lorena arrived yesterday. It's a white table and chairs and Dennis put it together immediately with a little help from Annalivia (she put held the screws and then put them in the holes for him to tighten). We moved it back to her bedroom and she has been spending lots of time coloring, mostly in her coloring books, but occasionally on the table top itself (which is why this child will probably never have anything other than washable crayons -- glad to report the table top cleans up perfectly). She has also been using it for a changing table for her dolls and a staging area for plastic animal parades.
Last night, Dennis was in charge of the bedtime story. It was about a little princess who had a new table and chairs. The chairs were too small for her mommy and daddy and too big for her little brother, but just right for the little princess.
And they are.

11 February 2007

And he's home again...

Daniel (and Dennis) came home this evening. We are SO relieved to have him here with us!

AND... we're having a heat wave! It's a whopping 18 degrees out right now! For some reason it seems much easier to keep the house warm...

Brief update

After we came home, Daniel became very jaundiced. We tried to treat it with a biliblanket here, but he has ended up in the hospital. Dennis has been staying with him, since he's not nursing well yet and they don't really have a place for me to pump every two hours. We're hoping that he'll get to come home tonight or early Monday morning.
Once again, I find myself so incredibly thankful for Dennis and his overwhelming willingness to do whatever needs to be done to take care of his family. And I'm also very thankful for his mother who has, once again, stepped up to take care of Annalivia, who is just thrilled to be able to spend so much time with Baba.
At some point, I have intentions of getting on here and actually doing some processing of all that has occurred in written form. However, I'm headed up to the hospital now, so that will be a while.

Again, we want to thank everyone so much for all your thoughts and prayers! Blessings to you all!

08 February 2007

More Daniel pics

If anyone would like to see some more Daniel pics, head over to http://mcstewsnews.blogspot.com/

edited to add: We're just going to post them here, too, so no need to travel!



A few rare awake moments



Daniel Robert with Grandpa Robert



Annalivia checks him out from a safe distance


Daniel's very helpful big sister reacting to his crying with, "shhhh..."







As we took these last three photos, Annalivia talked to Daniel and told him about the bed and the blanket, his pacifier, stars, Momma and Dadda and a bunch of stuff we didn't understand. It was pretty sweet to hear.

07 February 2007

He's Here!

This is Dennis posting for April.

Little Daniel Robert Stewart finally arrived today (02/07/07) at 4:48 am. He is 6lbs 12oz. 19 1/2" long. Mother and baby are doing well and Daniel is perfectly healthy. Here are photos from a phone. April will post more photos later. We want to thank everyone for their prayers and well wishes.






04 February 2007

Prayer coveter

Well, tomorrow, we go to the doctor and then, hopefully, up to the hospital to have this baby induced.
I confess, I'm a little nervous. Aside from the risks that childbirth carries for everyone, this weekend has been difficult. My blood pressure has been really pretty high especially if I'm doing anything other than reclining. I can actually feel my legs and thighs and upper arms and face swelling and my heart has been pounding in my neck. It's not fun.
And the closer we get to delivery, the more the Trisomy 18 possibility is looming in my thoughts. After our accident, we decided not to do the amnio. We've been getting twice weekly ultrasounds and the baby looks good and is active, but we have no conclusive evidence that all is well. Of course, I suppose no one ever has conclusive evidence that ALL is well, but I hope y'all know what I mean...

ANYWAY, all of this to say -- I would really appreciate prayers for peace and assurance, safety and stamina for all of us here. In some ways, I feel silly asking, because I know I already have them. But I am anyway. And I thank you!!

02 February 2007

Bubba to my Forrest

My best good friend, Jimmy, is here to visit us for the night. It is a totally unexpected visit and quite a lovely surprise. Tomorrow we'll be doing our versions of shrimping -- driving about and running errands. It's so great to have a friend that you don't have to impress who can just come visit without worry.
And that's all I have to say about that.

Friday Five: Ch-ch-ch-changes

A la the RevGals

Change is a given in life, yet it's not easy for any of us. So strap on your seat belts and let's talk about it:

1. Share, if you wish, the biggest change you experienced this past year.
Well, being pregnant with our second child and first son is a big one (until Monday that is, hee, hee!!), but being pregnant and having all three of us live through our auto accident was probably bigger this past year.
2. Talk about a time you changed your mind about something important.
I changed my mind about evangelical and conservative Christians this year. My mindset was stupid and ignorant before I met some amazing women online who are intelligent, humble, passionate, inquisitive... and, oh yeah, evangelical. It's been SO, SO, SO good for me to meet Christians outside my church box.
3. Bishop John Shelby Spong wrote a controversial book called "Why Christianity Must Change or Die." Setting aside his ideas--what kind of changes would you like to see in the Church?
I'd like to see us actually DO church rather than worrying so much about BEING church. And care more about being like Jesus than Ford Motor Co. (which isn't doing so well, for the record.)
4. Have you changed your hairstyle/hair color in the last five years? If so, how many times?
Yes. Quite a few times since 2002, though not many since 2005 when my daughter was born, other than to let it grow far too long between cuts! It's been long and brown and flat; shorter brown and flat; shorter, brown, and fluffy; shorter, brown, streaked and fluffy; even shorter and blonde; even shorter and even blonder; short, dark brown; short and red and yellow and brown; and now shortish and just brown.
5. What WERE they thinking with that New Coke thing?
It was the 80's. Shoulder pads, Aquanet, Working Girl ... we could list "what were they thinking?"s all day long...

Fair warning

Just wanted to let y'all know that on July 21, I won't be home to calls, visits, or perhaps even, children and spouse. Please consider this to be fair warning.

01 February 2007

Skills which perhaps do not mix

Annalivia has been perfecting some basic skills lately.
  • She can put a tape in the video player and push play.
  • She can take her pants, shirt and diaper off.
Right now she is watching a Teletubbies tape and has absentmindedly pushed her pants and diaper down around her knees. I'd post a picture, but I'd hate to be accused of child exploitation -- suffice to say, it's an adorable little nakey butt bouncing around to Po's greatest hits.

Monday, Monday

Monday is the day! We go to the doctor's at 9 a.m., and then (please, please, please, God) we go up to the hospital so I can be induced. Hopefully we'll see our baby boy's face sometime on Monday or Tuesday!
In the meantime, tomorrow Annalivia and I are going to go meet little Lirah and Sunday we will be watching the Bears win the Superbowl. So there are some distractions for us while we wait... not enough, but some...

30 January 2007

This man I married

Regular readers of this blog are probably getting tired of me gushing about my beloved husband, but y'all are just going to have to deal with it because this man has outdone himself again tonight.
Last night, for several reasons, I was awake for three hours in the middle of the night.(i.e, baby niece was born, I was excited, I have to pee an insane amount because my bladder is squished into the size of a thimble, Annalivia woke up, Annalivia woke up again, Annalivia would not go back to sleep, Annalivia woke up yet another time...)
ANYWAY, suffice to say -- today I was tired and had kind of a busy day meeting with the funeral family, arranging the burial a la my previous post, cooking a lasagna with tomato sauce that needed to be used because I made it on Saturday, making some cupcakes because I'm crazy, etc.
And about 7 p.m., I just felt like I hit a wall. I was done icing cupcakes and was standing in the kitchen and all of a sudden, I just felt like I could neither stand nor ice nor do anything anymore. So I went to my bedroom and breathed a lot and eventually, about one-half hour later, fell sound asleep leaving a kitchen with lasagna dishes and cupcake dishes and icing dishes still to be washed and a very tired child needing a bath and bed and a very tired husband needing to do homework . And me -- fast asleep. Not oblivous, but ignoring all.
After Dennis came to bed about an hour ago, I got up to finish the funeral and emerged from the bedroom to a perfectly clean kitchen -- more clean than I would ever make it -- cupcakes put in Rubbermaid containers, dishes -- including the lasagna pan-- clean, counters wiped down. Child clean and sound asleep in her own bed. Toys put away. Homework mostly done. Husband so tired he was asleep in less than 5 minutes because his nightly quota of sleep is the amount I got last night even with my three-hour interruption!
How in the name of heaven was I ever blessed enough to marry this man? If there is NO other sign(and for the record, there are plenty) of grace in my life -- something I DEFINITELY don't deserve -- this would be tangible evidence enough of a God who loves me beyond all reason.
What an amazing man! What the heck is he doing with me?

Pastoral parameters

So it has been a morning of phone-calling while trying to figure out what exactly is happening with this funeral I'm officiating tomorrow morning. This dear man who passed away has two sons -- one who lives in central Illinois and one who lives in Alabama. Both arrived in town last evening, met with the funeral director and scheduled a visitation for tonight and a funeral for tomorrow morning! I now have 25 CWF ladies who are freaking out because they have no time to get together donations for a funeral dinner. Ooooof.
The arrangements have been further complicated by the fact that this dear man's grandson is a Marine who has received permission to come home from Afghanistan for the funeral, but will likely miss the service itself. Hence the son from central Illinois who is the father of the marine asked his brother from Alabama to consider having a separate burial service on Thursday so that the marine could be part of something to honor his grandfather (who was also a Marine and the reason this young man is in the service in the first place). The son from Alabama has reluctantly agreed as he needed to return to Alabama as soon as possible. (It just seems to me that regardless of whether one drives 20 hours to get back to their hometown for their dad's funeral, the inconvenience of that act is trumped by the inconvenience of the person who has to fly in from halfway around the world and get out of a freaking WAR to get here. But that might just be me.)
So, I asked this family to try to schedule the burial anytime but between 1-3 on Thursday, as I have a pretty significant prenatal test that needs to be completed that day to determine whether we will be inducing this weekend. And guess when the burial was scheduled? Bet you can't....

yep -- 1 p.m.

But that's ok because the family had in mind the former pastor of our congregation who lives in the Quad Cities an hour from here. They didn't call him, of course, before arranging all of this and he is, predictably, I think, unavailable for the service. Phone calls to three other pastors have yielded naught in terms of a person able to cover the burial.
After calling my doctor who was willing to arrange for THREE people to come into work an hour earlier on Thursday so that I could have these tests at 7:30 a.m. and thus be done in time to do this burial, I decided to draw my line in the sand. I'm not doing the burial and will be going to my appointment at 1. The funeral director will find a pastor to officiate or I've offered to ask one of the elders in our congregation to do the service which I will prepare for them.
After a lot of phone calls and an equal or greater amount of prayer, I think this is ok. I hope this is ok. I struggle with guilt because I really did love this man who passed away. But on the other hand, I love my children and my husband and myself and I also need to attend to us. A pastor does get to draw some parameters, right?
Geez, I hope so.

Hurrah!! She's here!!

Little Lirah Noelle is finally here!
My mom left me a message a little while ago that my sister, Lillia, aka God's-most-patient-expectant-mother, had her water broken last night and got in the birthing tub about 9:30 p.m. Lirah emerged on her due date today at 12:55 a.m. She is 8 lbs and 19 inches long and apparently has dark hair and eyes and blond eyelashes and eyebrows. She was attended by her wonderful daddy, Jake, too. Big sister, Cleya, is probably bursting at the seams at Grandma's house.
I'm having a hard time NOT jumping in the car and driving south this minute, but only grandparents and siblings are allowed to visit the baby at the hospital, so it would be a long drive and I'd have to take binoculars and have Lil hold Lirah up at the window to be able to see anything. And that could just get awkward if a policeman happened to drive by and wondered what I was doing...
But if Sir Littler is remaining safely encased within me on Friday (and my doc says it's ok to go when I see her on Thursday) ... look out, Lirah, here comes Aunt Apey!
Anyway -- SHE'S HERE!! Hurrah!!

28 January 2007

The weekend in review

We've had a good weekend here. Yesterday we got the baby's room all cleaned out and mostly ready to be inhabited. Now there are just finishing touches left to do. Dennis' mom, Alice, is making bumper pads and curtains and we have a couple little hooks to hang up. Oh, and the glider we ordered from Walmart has to get here and be assembled, but then the room is ready to go. I'm excited to post pictures when we get it done.
We also did lots of organizing and tossing of our junk yesterday. That was good. We got lots of stuff that had just been irritating the heck out of me completely resolved. I am SO grateful for my patient, patient, patient husband! No one else could possibly love me enough to put up with me when pregnant, tired, and wanting things done NOW but with no real ability to do myself what I want to have done. If you read this, sweetheart -- thank you. I love you. He's just so incredibly good to me.
And so is his mother. This last week, she ended up watching Annalivia every day but one, so we had her over last night for dinner as a thank you. We had stuffed chicken breasts, garlic bread and salad and I made lemon bars, since I know she loves them. We ate plenty of them, too, and dinner was SO good!!
Today has been a strange day. It is one of those days that seems to be going on forever, on one hand, and on the other, has just flown by. The day started with a phone call from my pianist at church who is sick. That meant that we were either going to have old-fashioned church where we all sing a capella or we were going to have to dig out a cd of service music I had prepared sometime in the past with hymns provided by the Methodist hymnal on cd. Since this congregation does not sing, we opted for the latter.
Annalivia escaped her father in the first minute and a half of church and came up to visit Mommy on the chancel. After that, she was whisked away to Mommy's office and not seen til the end of church. Church went well until right before communion when Dennis came in and handed me a note that one of our dear church members passed away during the night. It was shocking to many of us, though he was near 90. I was grateful for the chance to pray with the congregation about our loss before church ended.
After church, Dennis and I were just kind of discombobulated and didn't seem to be able to use our brains in conjunction with our bodies. Or something like that. After ending up at three different eating establishments trying to get lunch, we finally went for a long drive and let Annalivia sleep while we ate carryout pizza. That was really very nice. It was also the first time I've been up in Oregon, IL, where Dennis works, since we had our accident. For some reason, that stuff is significant now when it wasn't before. It was nice to get over that mental hurdle.
When we got home, I got bitten by a reorganizing bug and ended up changing around some furniture in the bedrooms. Again, I would refer everyone to the paragraph referencing Dennis' patience. We moved lots of stuff around in Annalivia's room and in our room and Dennis and his brother hauled away some of it for temporary storage out at his country house. Now I feel like the baby can arrive any moment and we'll be ok. And since I had lots of contractions while moving everything around, I'm glad I feel that way!
And tonight, we had beef and noodles for dinner which was great in this incredibly cold and frigid weather and we watched some of a really interesting program on rhinoceroses on PBS tonight while also reading for the millionth time the book A Baby on the Way to Annalivia. Then after her bath tonight, our big girl went to sleep for the first time in her toddler bed. I keep checking on her to make sure she hasn't fallen out. So far, she's doing fine.
So. That was our weekend. It was good. A little weird but good. And it went far too fast. Hope everyone out there is staying warm and enjoying time with loved ones!