tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27432851.post4497202870958907490..comments2024-03-22T20:23:38.486-05:00Comments on SALT for the spirit: Honor and respectAprilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10155256816626940605noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27432851.post-63171333312775516842007-09-27T22:22:00.000-05:002007-09-27T22:22:00.000-05:00PSI have to laugh all the time that Annalivia name...PS<BR/><BR/>I have to laugh all the time that Annalivia named her doll Arnold. She reminds me of me. I still call the kids at school by funny names to crack them up . . .Gary, Sandy, etc. ;)Jim and Amy Renniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11980911454047214460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27432851.post-24670424481441626902007-09-27T21:14:00.000-05:002007-09-27T21:14:00.000-05:00Thanks for your wisdom, you three. You have me th...Thanks for your wisdom, you three. You have me thinking and returning to the book for more.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02803049148666438704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27432851.post-45415062517819573712007-09-22T15:16:00.000-05:002007-09-22T15:16:00.000-05:00I actually agreed with the authors here . . .I thi...I actually agreed with the authors here . . .I think respect is given whether we actually like someone or not. I am respectful towards someone face to face, even if I go home and totally bash them behind their back. I always said to my high school classes that my only rule was respect. They didn't have to like me or each other, but they DID have to respect everyone in the learning environment. I wasn't their parent, so this was really as far as I could go . . .but I agree that honor extends deeper than respect. I can respect someone I don't care for, but if I honored them, I would need to care for them. I SHOULD, as a Christian, be loving to all people. I'm not. Maybe if I tried to honor them, rather than just "show respect," I would care more about them as individuals. <BR/><BR/>Hope that makes sense.Jim and Amy Renniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11980911454047214460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27432851.post-8042090387658472282007-09-21T21:51:00.000-05:002007-09-21T21:51:00.000-05:00D and I totally changed the way we parented becaus...D and I totally changed the way we parented because of this book -- primarily because of this concept. In our minds and experiences, there is a DRASTIC difference. We were both raised to be respectful and "nice." And as Muphinsmom said in the earlier comment, you can certainly extend politeness (or respect) to someone for whom you don't care at all.<BR/>However, in the most important relationships in our home at present -- two "little kids" and (presumably) two adults -- teaching our little ones to *honor* one another means going the extra mile because the other person *is* -- not because they've earned it, not because they'll do something in return, but because God created them. Honor has done far and above our best explanations in order to teach "The Golden Rule." As our children have sought to honor others (primarily each other and Daddy & Mommy), they've begun to "value" other people differently too -- instead of running up to Grandma with the "Whaddya get me??" we've seen the beginnings of them wanting to make Grandma feel special first. It's early, they've not yet "arrived" at it yet, but all we've seen so far has been enough for us to see a difference; if we can continue to affect their long-term motivations in relationships, it's well worth our personally making the distinctions between *acts* of respect and *attitudes* of honor.<BR/>Just our thoughts... :) <BR/>Hey, how ya feeling these days?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27432851.post-30581202625286403512007-09-21T15:08:00.000-05:002007-09-21T15:08:00.000-05:00While I'm not sure those are the words I would cho...While I'm not sure those are the words I would choose I do believe there is a distinction to be made like this.<BR/><BR/>Polite is not the same as empathy. You can be polite to people you consider less than yourself. <BR/>MuphinsmomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com